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Dating Post Divorce: The Good, The Bad, and The Truly Unsatisfying
When I got divorced a friend asked me how long before I would start dating again and I said, “immediately, but I’m changing my focus a little.”
“Instead of trying to find THE ONE I am looking for low-hanging fruit that fell off the tree, rolled down the hill and into a creek, then flowed downstream a mile and got pinned under a rock.”
And off to the races I went. Tattoos — no problem, bright blue hair — sure, been to prison — fine, works at the Spearmint Rhino — whatever. Point was, I had become Noah, and Noah lets them all on the boat.
Because of my specific dating criteria, most dating aps weren’t appropriate. eHarmony doesn’t have a setting for “train wreck” and Match.com doesn’t have one for “dumpster fire”. For that, you have to go to Instagram.
Now I don’t want to infer anyone I met was socially broken or certainly not unintelligent, but some of the stereotypes do apply. The biggest of which was they did not grow up around money. It doesn’t matter how smart you are, if you are exposed to less you have less information to work from.
I met a lot of interesting people, all younger than I am and most much younger. It was fairly obvious to both of us there was a significant age difference. So usually, we would just not go there…
