I am an adult white male who grew up around (almost entirely ) African Americans until I was 12, then it evened out. If your friends are so backwards that 3 out of 5 of those need explaining, you may be hanging with a whiter group of people than I do and I’m a talent agent. In Hollywood, which is as white as a napkin. Pitiful you should have to tell anybody not to say that condescending s***.